by Karyn Wittmeyer | Sep 25, 2023 | Communication, Emotional Intimacy, Insight Building, New Relationship Energy, Relationship Skills
The best thing and the worst thing about nonmonogamy is that sometimes you can have a full schedule of relationships. Unfortunately, this can sometimes lead to longer term relationships having little to no sexual connection, or becoming “really good roommates”....
by Karyn Wittmeyer | Sep 18, 2023 | Communication, Emotional Intimacy, General Information, Insight Building, New Relationship Energy, Relationship Skills
Many years ago, the list of 36 questions to ask your mate to fall in love came out. It’s certainly a great list for getting to know someone! The original 36 questions are broken down into three sections that move from ice-breaker to deeper questions about...
by Karyn Wittmeyer | Sep 11, 2023 | Communication, Emotional Intimacy, General Information, New Relationship Energy, Nonmonogamy 101, Relationship Skills
One of the rules couples often have when they first open up is that they aren’t going to develop an emotional connection to others. Unfortunately, due to the way New Relationship Energy works, we don’t always have control over who we feel connected to. The...
by Karyn Wittmeyer | Aug 28, 2023 | Communication, General Information, Labels, New Relationship Energy, Relationship Skills, Terms
Will opening up help? This is a question we see a lot in the therapy room, especially as more people are becoming familiar with the concept of asexuality. Desire discrepancies in monogamous relationships are one of the most difficult problems couples, and...
by Karyn Wittmeyer | Jul 31, 2023 | Agreements, Boundaries, Communication, Insight Building, Jealousy, New Relationship Energy, Nonmonogamy 101, Relationship Skills, Tripping Hazards
When people think about agreements, sometimes they only think about them as big, monolithic edicts written in stone. But many agreements are small or temporary: I’ll wash the dishes if you do the laundry; Let’s never visit this restaurant again. Many...
by Karyn Wittmeyer | Jul 10, 2023 | Agreements, Boundaries, Communication, Insight Building, New Relationship Energy, Nonmonogamy 101, Relationship Skills, Terms, Tripping Hazards
Polyfidelity can be a contentious subject in the nonmonogamy community. Many people accuse it of just being monogamy with more steps. They might be right some of the time, but I’m not sure that it’s anyone’s business to judge those people. The important point is...
